The Challenge
A young musician came to me with a persistent issue: he couldn’t stay in rhythm. No matter how many exercises he practiced or how closely he followed a metronome, his timing was off. He would either rush, drag, or freeze—especially when playing with others. He was frustrated and beginning to doubt his musical future.
But what stood out to me was that this issue wasn’t limited to music. In our conversations, I noticed the same rhythm problem in his speech, his thought patterns, and his decisions. He hesitated often, waited for cues, and frequently sought reassurance. His musical rhythm problem was part of a broader struggle—one rooted much deeper than his hands or his ears.
Uncovering the Root
Through patient observation and deep, honest dialogue, a pattern began to emerge. He had grown up with an overprotective father who unintentionally created a world where making mistakes felt unsafe. Every time he tried something on his own, his father would step in, correct, or intervene. Over time, this taught him to second-guess his instincts. He developed a subconscious reluctance—not just in music, but in life.
This reluctance was manifesting as a rhythmic block. Playing in time requires trust in oneself, the ability to let go, and to move without overthinking. But his body had learned: don’t move unless it’s perfect.
The Process
Instead of drilling rhythm exercises, we shifted focus. I created a safe, exploratory space where he could begin reconnecting with instinct—through musical improvisation, movement-based exercises, and psychological inquiry. Slowly, he began to feel his own tempo—not the one imposed, but the one that lived inside him.
We worked on releasing the need for external permission. No pressure to be “right”—just the freedom to play. Rhythm returned naturally, not because it was taught, but because it was remembered.
The Transformation
The shift was profound. Once he stopped fighting rhythm and started trusting himself, everything changed. His musical timing became fluid and expressive. But even more powerfully—his life began to change.
He applied for creative opportunities he had long delayed. He had difficult but healing conversations with his family. He even began mentoring younger musicians, something he once felt completely unqualified to do.
The Takeaway
This was never just about music. It was about reclaiming rhythm in his life. Behind his timing issues was a nervous system still reacting to childhood conditioning. Once he understood that—and felt safe to move forward—his entire relationship with art and self transformed.
P.S. I wish I could share the name of the person, but have to respect their privacy. I hope one day it will be a proud moment to see him actualise his true soul. (You know who you are, and I am very proud of you, my friend!)
Is This You?
- Do you feel like something is holding you back in your art—but you can’t name it?
- Are you technically skilled but still feel stuck or hesitant?
- Do you second-guess your timing, your choices, or your instincts—on or off the stage?
- Do you suspect your artistic struggles might be about more than just technique?
If so, you’re not broken. There’s just a story that wants to be seen—and a rhythm that’s waiting to return.
What Happens in a Breakthrough Session?
- 60–90 min deep one-on-one session (Zoom or in person)
- Psychological insight + artist-specific guidance
- Improvisational or creative exercises (custom to you)
- Actionable plan to move forward—on your terms
- Ideal for musicians, writers, creatives & performers
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About Me
I’m Saby, a multi-disciplinary artist, mentor and guide for artists who are stuck—not because they lack talent, but because they’ve never had space to unravel what’s underneath. I combine creative strategy with psychology to help artists return to who they were before the doubt crept in.
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